Women who are open and free-spirited about their sexuality are among us, and while most men say they want a woman with some experience, they don’t want to feel like she’s got more miles on her then his SUV.
So, if you' re getting the feeling that your new girlfriend has been around, here are 5 signs to look for to determine if the "sweet and innocent" woman you are with used to be the kind of girl guys thought of as a "sure thing."
1. She's unusually savvy in bed
Love-making should be good and you do have women that have developed a marvelous sense of their sexual self from only a couple of partners and/or long-term relationships. However, if you’re with a girl and she does a move that is just too good, that quality for her may have come as a result of having made more than just a few trips around the bases.
2. She personally knows a lot of guys
It's not unusual for a woman to have a guy friend; however, it is not common to be constantly bumping into guys who your girlfriend knows and has obviously been intimate with. For example, the two of you go out and she says to you, “Hey wait, let me say hi to my friend Greg.” Another set of guys walk in. “Those are my friends John, Matt and Todd. I have to go say hi to them.” Another set walks in and she continues to know all the guys.
The guys appear comfortable speaking to both of you, or know her immediately by her name, or even know her but can't recall her name for some reason. Their conversation will be short, awkward and painful to experience. As you leave, the guys will look at you in a way that signals “We’ve already had your girl.” Afterwards your girlfriend will swiftly explain that “they're just old friends” and change the conversation.
3. She makes love as if on auto-pilot
Have you felt all romantic after a late-night romp with your current girlfriend, but she was left untouched by the experience? If she is too mechanical, the dirty talk is flaccid with phony excitement, she wants to please herself, or please you and then be done with it, or seldom has interest in cuddling or the like, it is a good indication that you are one in a long line and she's had her fair share.
4. She knows a lot about condoms
It's a great thing for women to protect themselves. We're talking about the girls that know just a little too much about condoms and say things like: “That brand has a higher risk of breaking”, or “don’t flush it because condoms clog my toilet.”
5. She routinely gets tested
An obvious sign that she's been around in the past and has likely been with various partners is that she routinely gets tested for sexually-transmitted diseases.
If you discover that your girlfriend has been around in the past, don't jump to conclusions. Ask her about the relationships, listen carefully to her tales and decide if there is a double standard in regards to the amount of women that you've been with. If she's has had many partners in the past, but loves you, treats you right and wants to engage in a serious relationship, should it really matter?
Check out our article on the 5 Traits of a Great Girlfriend.
Understanding what constitutes healthy relationships can help you make changes that lead to new heights of intimacy, happiness and fulfillment. No relationship is perfect, but here are 10 standard elements that should exist in all healthy relationships.
1. There is mutual respect between partners
A true sign of a good relationship is mutual respect between partners. It means that you respect each others’ individuality and make the most of your differences.
2. You trust each other
Each partner has faith in the other to be emotionally available when needed and you feel a genuine sense of safety and security in the relationship.
3. You appreciate each other
Both of you feel appreciated in the relationship and neither you or your partner feel unappreciated or taken for granted. You praise each other, offer compliments and use creative ways to show you care.
4. You can be honest with each other
In a healthy relationship, both partners display honesty and integrity from the start and maintain it throughout the course of the relationship. This means being honest in everything, and not telling those little white lies that can lead on to bigger, and more defining lies.
5. You support each other
In a healthy relationship, each person is interested in what the other is doing and there is a balance between giving and taking. Both partners are available for each other in a time of need.
6. You can spend quality time apart
In a healthy relationship, you shouldn't feel suffocated or controlled by your partner. Healthy individuals have their own friends, family members, interests and opinions outside the relationship. This also means letting her have a girls' night or her letting you hang out with your friends.
7. You have a good sex life
You're both okay with how often you have sex, how you have sex, where you have sex...and there's mutual participation. Sex is not withheld as a punishment and both partners feel safe enough to express their sexual desires without worrying that their partner will force them to do things they're uncomfortable with.
8. You manage conflict well
Contrary to what some may think, a healthy relationship doesn't mean you're happy 100 percent of the time. In a healthy relationship, you should be able to resolve your differences without blaming or belittling the other person. Instead of just avoiding arguments, healthy couples know how to handle them when they inevitably do come up.
9. There is good communication
If you are in a healthy balanced relationship, you should be able to listen to your partner and be able to support them without letting your own feelings get in the way. Both partners share details of their daily lives to strengthen their emotional bond and spend time together and learn about each other’s thoughts and ideas.
10. You truly feel happy
In a good relationship, both the partners are happy to be with each other and enjoy the relationship. You laugh with your partner and have fun together. You don’t feel like you are pretending, or that you should be someone other than who you are.
Interested on the other side of the coin? Check out our article on The Top 10 Unhealthy Relationship Signs.
We define the "backup guy" as a guy who is more than a friend, but less than a boyfriend. He's the safe, terrifically nice guy who’s always surrounded by women that complain to him about the cold-hearted losers they're dating. He's the boyfriend substitute women call upon when all other options vanish. He's always surrounded by women who want to date someone just like him-- except they won’t date him, for whatever reason.
The following 5 signs are all giveaways that you’ve fallen into the “backup guy” trap. With a quick perusal of the list below, you should be in a good position to decipher when to continue your pursuit and when to walk away with your dignity intact.
1. She rarely return your calls
If a girl is attracted to you, she should be calling you at least once for every three times you call her. However, if you don’t hear from her for weeks or months at a time, and all of a sudden she wants to hang out, take it as she’s just bored or is between boyfriends and there’s no one else to call.
2. She regularly cancels at the last minute
It is certainly fair to cancel plans occasionally for a legitimate reason, but if she flakes on you consistently and doesn’t try to be flexible with her schedule to free up time for you, it shows that she holds little respect for you at and that she doesn't want to commit in case something better comes up.
3. She teases you along with the simple intention of keeping you around
She romantically teases you along with things like "accidental" kisses with the simple intention of keeping you around so you'll always be there to rescue her. She even allows you to sleep in her bed so she can talk to you all night long about her feelings.
4. She tells you what a great boyfriend you'd be... for some lucky girl
This is basically like saying "you have all the qualities I'm supposed to want in a guy, but for some reason I find you sexually repulsive."
5. She talks about other guys while you are with her
She asks you for advice about different men she’s attracted to and constantly tells you about all her problems with them. When a woman you're interested in becomes comfortable enough to openly talk to you about all her problems with other men and asks you for advice about the guys she’s attracted to, she doesn't see you as a potential lover--You're in the FRIEND ZONE.
At the start of a new relationship, it's easy to overlook the clear cut signs that she’ll break your heart because of genuine attraction, excitement or just the fact you’re getting some action. However, with the majority of relationships destined for failure, you need to be selective and end a sour one before too much of your time and energy has been invested. For your benefit, here are 4 signs that she’ll break your heart.
1. She was already involved when she met you
The two of you hooked up when she was dating another guy or even worse--you're dating a married woman. While it can be easy to discount logic and naysayers when you're head-over-heels in love, but sooner or later you'll realize that you'll never be able to fully trust her. After all, how do you know she wouldn't start dating someone else? A cheat is always a cheat.
2. She's close with her exes
If you meet a girl that is able to stay good friends with her exes and gets a lot of calls from a lot of guys who all seem very close to her, she'll damage you. She may have some "friends with benefits" things going on with her exes, and the fact that she finds men so disposable means that she never really builds up strong relationships anyway. If you're looking for a serious relationship, never get involved with a girl who easily switches from viewing as lovers to treating them as friends.
3. She has deep-rooted issues
Whether it's problems with alcohol, drugs, or psychological issues, if there's something in her life that you’re always second place to, this relationship is not going to last long.
4. She's very secretive and lies a lot
If your girl isn't big on telling the truth, doesn't feel guilt over her constant lies, does whatever is "easiest" to get by rather than dealing with the truth and simply tells you what you want to hear, you should end it sooner rather than later.
So you've been trying hard to get close to a girl, and the more time the two of you spend together, the more you realize how much you actually like her. You've gotten really close to her with all the hopes of piquing her sexual interest, but somewhere along the way, you may have taken a few detours that led you right into the friend zone. So why have you ended up as friends instead of her boyfriend? Here’s why.
1. You've never asked for a date
You secretly lust for her, but instead of asking her out, you behave like a friend and never let the girl know that you have more than friendly intentions on your mind. If you like a girl, you have to make it subtly obvious that you're romantically interested in her. If your "friend" does not know you want more, then she cannot give more. Put it on the table and see what happens.
2. You voluntarily became her best friend
You became her romantic counselor, listened to every cry and pity party moment about how her last boyfriend did her wrong. You began doing things her girlfriends do with her to the point she's lost all realization of the fact that you have a package down there. You've become another sexless thing she hangs out with all the time as a platonic friend. You chose to be her shoulder to lean on, knowing you wanted to be her boyfriend all along.
3. You're way too nice and accommodating
You may be a good catch, but you can give a woman too much of yourself too soon. If you're always available for a woman at the drop of a dime, and offer zero challenge to her, you will not spark that base desire within her.
4. She's afraid to take it to the next level
It is sometimes a risk to go from being friends to being "lovers". A woman could value the friendship so much that she fears losing what the two of you have. Your friend will have to work through her fear to change this.
5. She's just not attracted to you
This is the most common scenario. She may find you funny, charming and fun to be with --but she just doesn't feel any sexual chemistry with you. Sometimes it’s just the way it is -- you don’t want to hit the sheets with every woman you meet, do you? If she‘s just not into you, you have a choice to make: Either stay her friend or move on completely.
Interested in the other side of the coin? Check out our article on The 5 Signs She Wants To Be More Than Friends.
Once you've found a great girlfriend, the last thing you want to do is lose her through a bad misstep. No one can list all the potential things that can destroy a relationship, but we can give you a heads up on the most likely causes of a breakup with these 5 relationship killers.
Cheating is the ultimate relationship killer because once someone has cheated, regaining full trust is next to impossible. The initial betrayal of finding out that a partner has strayed is often enough to leave a relationship dead, and even if a couple does try to work past the cheating, the majority of couples won't survive.
2. Always placing your career before her
Your girlfriend is likely very proud of your career success and appreciates being with an ambitious man; however, she also expects you to make time for her. If you stay late at work every night, cancel dates for last-minute business meetings, or if you choose to constantly spend time with your co-workers after work, she will come to her own conclusions about your priorities.
3. Letting Yourself Go
If your girlfriend was attracted to you when you were wearing Italian suits, chances are that's what she likes, and she may not be attracted to you if you begin wearing nothing but holey sweatpants and football jerseys. Letting yourself go tells your girlfriend that she's not important enough for you to maintain your appearance and you were just putting on a facade to attract her.
4. Not making enough time for her
If you want to keep your girlfriend around, you have to find ways to make her feel special and important. You're not a bachelor anymore, so you will have to give up time watching the game with your pals in order to spend time with together with the lady in your life. Remember, if you don't pay attention to her, a lot of other men will.
5. Being controlling
People hate to have their freedoms limited by another person or persons. Controlling behavior such as blaming, anger, rage, violence, judgment, criticism and ridicule almost always results in resentment and emotional distance.
So after a night of hanging out with one of your female friends, you started getting this nagging feeling that something's different. Has she started looking at and treating you differently, as if she's sizing you up? Have the things you both used to joke about, such as her physical flaws, become a sensitive subject for her? Has she started wearing a backless blouse and pulling out the 4-inch stilettos just to meet you for coffee?
The reason why she is now treating you less as a friend is because she is starting to see you more as a potential mate. Here are 5 signs that she wants to be more than just friends with you.
1. She's jealous of other women you talk to
If you are dating other women, most of the time she is cool with it, but suddenly she is being critical of them and sees them as some type of competition. So if you notice her getting an upset look on her face or steaming just because you're joking around with other women, you can be sure that she wants to become more than a friend.
2. She hangs on your every word
No matter what you are talking about, she'll be sitting at the edge of her seat, looking into your eyes longer and will be interested in what you have to say, even if it is about a topic she has no interest in. If she hangs on your every word that's a good indication she wants more attention from you and to give you more.
3. She no longer talks about other guys in front of you
If she suddenly stops talking about the guys she meets and dates, there's a good chance she's keeping herself available for you.
4. She makes excuses to hang out alone with you
If a woman is interested in you, she'll make an effort to have alone time with you. She will ask you to hang out and will isolate both of you from other people. For example, if you are at a party, she may suggest sitting out front where there are less people around.
5. She starts wearing more makeup and dresses better around you
If you come over to watch a movie and you notice that her appearance is getting sexier by the minute and you're wondering what's the occasion, the truth is she wants you to take notice of her beauty and see her in a different light.
Relationships can be very complex. They tend to start off fun and exciting; however, as time passes, your differences might become more serious and the relationship could take a turn for the worse. If you have the slightest doubt that your relationship is in trouble, these 8 signs should help you figure out if it's time to cut your losses and avoid wasting any more time in a dead-end relationship.
1. You often think about your life without her
If you find yourself constantly daydreaming about a bachelor's life, romanticizing past relationships, and thinking about meeting new women, these are all signs that your current relationship is doomed.
2. Neither of you can leave the past in the past
It's a common deal-breaker in relationships to keep bringing up past issues during arguments to use as ammunition against your other half. If you can't learn to forgive and forget – or your partner can't learn to forgive and forget a mistake that you have made – then it might be time to cut all ties and start fresh.
3. You don't communicate anymore
When you first started dating, the two of you talked about everything. Now, however, you can’t even be bothered to text, let alone call her and you've even started ignoring her attempts to contact you.
4. Sexual relations have stopped
Does your woman have no interest in having sex with you anymore? Does she always tell you that she's not in the mood or that she's tired or had a long day? If you can't remember the last time you got busy between the sheets, it’s usually an indication that the spark has gone and it’s time to move on to greener pastures.
5. You argue all the time
Sure, some amount of arguing is normal in relationships, but if you are constantly picking fights with one another and arguing and has become the only interaction the two of you have, it's time to move on.
6. There's a lack of effort
When you first met, you pulled out all the romantic stops. You loved to surprise her with cute love notes all the time, home-cooked dinner nights and picnics on the beach. Now, all you see are her bad qualities, you can’t even be bothered to arrange a date to keep the passion alive and you're actually happier just sitting at home watching TV by yourself.
7. The two of you spend more time with friends than each other
In a relationship, it's normal to spend time with your friends, but, if you see your friends more than you see each other, your relationship is in danger.
8. There's no more talk about the future
The two of you have started using “I” instead of “we” and neither of you are willing to talk about future plans together.
Although almost everyone brings some emotional baggage to a new relationship; however, one of the most common though least talked-about issues is a woman's fear of intimacy. If you believe despite having an otherwise satisfying relationship, your girlfriend is somewhat apprehensive about coming close to you, here are four reasons why women fear of intimacy.
1. She has a poor body image
Every woman has an issue with some part of her body, such as her stomach, butt, wide hips or breasts; however, she may feel victimized by her own body and think that you will judge her imperfect body as harshly as she does. If she is self-conscious about certain body parts, and you happen to love them, tell her so often. Eventually, she'll feel less self-conscious and will let you take a closer look.
2. She's inexperienced in the bedroom
Although many of today's women have enough experience to hold their own in the bedroom, there are still some women who don't have much or any experience when it comes to lovemaking. Even if she's not a virgin (yes, they do still exist), she may have only had one partner or a couple of short-lived relationships and the thought of being with someone completely new may scare her. Whatever the case, awaken her sexuality slowly and do all the sensual things way before you even think about engaging in the ultimate act of love.
3. She suffers from a broken heart
A woman could also be hesitant to give her heart away if it has recently been broken. Intimacy is synonymous with pain, and if her last boyfriend didn't treat her properly or cheated on her, she's probably in self-protect mode and only a great guy who she feels is trustworthy and not out to hurt her will be able to snap her out of it.
4. She has a traumatic past
Past dysfunctional relationships and romantic disasters may have also contributed to her lack of confidence and intimacy. An inability to open up may also stem from deeper, more serious wounds. For instance, a victim of domestic violence or sexual abuse may experience an aversion to closeness with men that is difficult to overcome. Under such circumstances, you need to check your sexual advances and wait for girlfriend to heal herself before she can be comfortable with you in an intimate setting.
A needy woman can be among the most frustrating aspects of a man’s romantic life. The problem is, a lot of chicks have no clue when they're acting like the human version of Velcro. Whether her needy behavior is subtle or overtly obvious, it can cause a lot of unnecessary and exhausting drama and put a major strain on your relationship. Below are five signs that will help you recognize whether or not your dating a needy woman.
1. She wants to stay in touch all the time
A needy woman will blow up your phone with a gazillion calls and text messages along with excessive emails. She also expects you to call and text her multiple times a day. She needs to know where you're going at all times and will begin to feel restless and angry if you are late contacting her.
2. She wants your attention all the time
A needy woman feels like she deserves your attention at all times, even if your busy talking to someone else, working on something or just relaxing by yourself. She demands to be by your side as often as possible and hand-holding and nonstop body contact is mandatory. She's a controlling woman who feels as if she owns you and discourages you from spending time with your friends.
3. She thinks you don't love her as much as she loves you
A needy woman demands to analyze everything about your relationship and thinks that constantly bringing up problems in the relationship will make you a better man. She'll tell you that she feels like she's the only one trying to hold the relationship together, and if she doesn't see you wearing the shirt she bought you three months ago, she thinks that you don't care about her anymore.
4. She's constantly worried about being dumped
If you forget to say "I love you" at the end of a conversation, she thinks the relationship is coming to an end. Due to previous disappointments and painful experiences with men, she is a psychologically unstable individual who needs constant reassurance that you are still there and haven't dumped her.
5. She has no life of her own
She's afraid to have her own interests, always glues herself to you and follows you around all the time instead of doing her own thing. She wants to spend every bit of her free time with you and wears out her welcome rather quickly.
Interested in the other side of the coin? Check out our article on The 5 Signs You're Being Needy.
Most men don’t want to admit that they’re in an abusive relationship; however, if you use words like crazy, emotional, controlling, bossy, domineering, constant conflict, or volatile to describe your girlfriend and your relationship, odds are you’re dating an emotional bully. Life is too short to waste time in this kind of relationship, so you need to run for the hills if your woman holds more than one of these attributes at any given time on a continual basis:
1. She creates constant chaos
She’s addicted to conflict and seems to get a rush from the adrenaline and drama. She deliberately starts arguments and conflict to keep you engaged or as a way to get you to react to her with hostility so that she can accuse you of being abusive and she can play the victim.
2. She constantly puts you down
She uses verbal assaults and constantly employs tactics such as name calling, criticizing, threatening, screaming, sarcasm, and humiliation as well as exaggerating your flaws and making fun of you in front of your friends, family and even your children.
3. She has constant mood swings with unpredictable responses
One day she's your best friend, the next she won't even speak to you. One minute she'll love you and the next she'll be picking fights or screaming at you for some imagined transgression on your part. Then the cycle repeats itself, again and again.
4. She makes you feel like you can never do enough
She'll keep reminding you of the areas you're lacking and destroy your self-confidence by saying that you don't love her enough, you're not romantic enough, you're not smart enough to figure out her needs or that you don't make enough money to satisfy her. She puts you in no-win situations with her endless list of demands that no one mortal man could ever fulfill.
5. She constantly blackmails you
She wants to control you and resorts to emotional intimidation to do it. She threatens to deny you of physical and emotional nurturing, withhold affection and sex, abandon you, and even end the relationship if you don’t play by her rules. She plays on your fears, vulnerabilities, weaknesses, shame, compassion, and other “buttons” to control you and get what she wants.
It's your choice if you wish to maintain a relationship with someone who acts like this, but it's important to be aware of these behaviors: they are all signs of an unhealthy relationship, and a lifetime of tolerating this behavior is a miserable existence.
If you ask men what their ultimate fantasy is, chances are they will likely respond that it is making love with two women. Almost every man who has the opportunity to have a three-way love-making experience will take it, but what are the chances that taking it to the next level can actually ruin your relationship?
Let's face it--men who make love to two women are revered by their male counterparts. It gives a man a feeling of accomplishment and achievement, making him feel like the ultimate alpha male. But have you ever considered the consequences of three-way lovemaking for both you and your partner?
For any self-respecting woman who is in love, sharing her boyfriend with another woman can be a traumatic experience that can trigger all kinds of negative emotions for her ranging from jealousy and embarrassment to possessiveness.
Think about it--asking your woman to have a three-way means that you are confessing your desire to make love to another woman. Just the thought of that will not only give her a sense of doubt, but mistrust will creep in and she will think you are cheating and are not satisfied by her.
Still not convinced a three-way could ruin your relationship? While you might be excited at the idea of being with two women at the same time, would something switch in your view of your girlfriend if she asked you for a threesome with another man?
Imagine how hard it would be to return to a normal relationship once you've seen your lady in bed with another guy. Even if you're in to that sort of thing now, how willing would you be to make her your wife and have some kids after watching her get it on with some random stranger, or even worse--one of your buddies?
When it comes to threesomes, they're never a good idea unless you have an open relationship with some chick you see no real future with. If you're in a very loving, secure and serious relationship, this type of fantasy should stay just that--a fantasy.
1. You have similar values
Marriage isn’t going to succeed on love alone, so if the two of you complement each other's strengths and weaknesses and both of you are actually headed in the same direction on issues such as work, money, raising children, religion and values, you're in line to get hitched.
2. You've made plans for the future with her
If you've initiated or willingly participated in discussions with your girlfriend about things like which house to buy, which investment is better, having children and retirement plans, you're ready to propose.
3. You've discovered your desire to be a father
You're ready for marriage when you actually embrace the idea of being a father, begin suggesting to your girlfriend how great of a dad you will be, and begin thinking of your children's names.
4. You've completely grown out of your bachelor ways
The idea of meeting new women and participating in the singles' scene no longer appeals to a man who is ready to marry. Ask yourself the following questions: Do you feel increasingly out of place in the bars and clubs? Are you are sick of parties and getting involved with one-night stands? Are you ready to burn your little black book and forsake contact with exes and anyone else who may threaten your relationship? If you answered yes to these questions, you are squarely on the path to proposing.
5. You simply can't wait to get home to her
Whenever you go out of town on business, you frequently wish she could be there with you. Conversely, when she's away, you can't wait for her to get back. You feel comfortable talking with her about any and everything. You not only call her daily, but you can't wait to see her and tell her the details of your day and have a strong desire to hear about hers. Don't fight it any longer, you're ready.
When it comes to a long-term relationship, chances are your girlfriend will be the first one who brings up the idea of living with you. She might come right out and ask you if you want to start sharing accommodations, but it’s just as likely she’ll send subtle signals to suggest she wants to make the leap into your bachelor pad. Here are 5 of the most obvious signs that she wants to move in with you:
1. Sleepovers turn into week long visits
After the two of you have been dating for a while, it may become normal for your girlfriend to sleep over at your place every now and then. However, when she starts turning a one-night sleep over into an extended, week long visit or begins staying at your place when you're out of town, it may be a signal that she is thinking about a more permanent move.
2. She starts occupying your space
If a woman is thinking about moving in, one of her first steps will be to start leaving basic things at your place like her toothbrush and bath towel in order to ease you into the little details of her lifestyle. Then she'll appropriate a drawer of your dresser or start keeping her female products in your medicine cabinet.
3. She begins decorating your home
Recognize that decorating and even cleaning will make your girlfriend feel more attached to your place. Furthermore, the new curtains in the living room that she picked out will also give her a sense of belonging.
4. She mentions how convenient your place is for her
Listen carefully to her when she begins mentioning how much easier it is for her to commute to work from your place, or if she complains about how expensive it is for her to pay rent at her apartment.
5.She starts casually referring to your apartment as home
Notice when she casually starts referring to your apartment as "our" apartment and says things like "Sweetie, are you ready to go home?" It may be tempting to ignore these phrases, but trust me--they're not just a slip of her tongue--she's beginning to mark her territory!
Yes, many women date losers; however, there are many men that date women that create a great deal of social, emotional and psychological damage in a relationship. These women either hold you back, bring you down or simply hurt you in one way or another down the road. No one should ever settle for mediocrity, so gentlemen, if any of the following 5 characteristics are all too familiar, there is risk in your relationship.
1. She forms attachments fast
A loser has very shallow emotions and connections with others. This type of woman will seem fantastic at first and will shower you with attention. Then, in less than a few weeks of dating, you'll hear that you're the love of her life and how she wants to marry you and be with you forever. You may be so overwhelmed by this display of instant attraction, commitment and planning for the future that you'll miss the major point--none of it makes any sense!!
It's true that we can become infatuated with others quickly; however, normal, healthy women require a longer process to develop a relationship and won't be making unrealistic promises and have the future planned after just two dates. A woman who advances WAY faster than normal has very shallow emotions, so watch out. Remember the old saying: "If it's too good to be true, it probably is!"
2. She’s a freeloader
A loser knows every trick in the book to get something for free and would rather accept a government check than work. When it comes time to pick up the check for a dinner, a movie or just about anything else the two of you are undertaking-- her debit card has mysteriously "declined." She won't pitch in for gas on trips or for food at a get-together. A woman like this will just suck your wallet dry and leave you emasculated. If you are the one who is constantly shelling out money in the relationship, that should be your sign that she's just using you.
3. She has no life of her own
In a normal relationship, the two of you would share a common bond while having your own lives, your own friends and your own dreams. However, a loser has no life or interests of her own and will be stuck to you like glue. She'll adopt your interests, call you 20 times a day and fly off the handle anytime she’s not around to monitor your behavior. This type of woman will destroy any chance of you missing her by insisting that you spend every waking moment with her, refusing to let you go out with the boys or spend any significant amount of time with anyone else.
4. She has nothing but bad stories about herself
People define themselves with their stories, and if you give a person enough rope, they'll eventually hang themselves. A loser will tell you about her past relationships and in every case, she'll assure you that she was a "victim" who was treated horribly despite how wonderful she was to that person. She'll then brag about her temper and outbursts because she doesn't see anything wrong with her attitude.
These women carry a tremendous amount of emotional baggage and will do things that are completely crazy, lacking rational thought and take actions with no thought about consequences. Pay close attention to her stories-- they tell you how you will eventually be treated and what's coming your way if you stay with her.
5. She embarrasses you in public
A loser will eventually lash out at you, call you names, or say cruel and embarrassing things about you in public. You'll constantly find yourself politely smiling, walking with your head down, saying nothing and holding on to her arm when in public, fearful of seeing a friend who might speak to you and create an angry reaction. If you stay with a woman like this, she'll simply continue to beat your self-worth down to her own level--after all, misery loves company.
Have you ever been in a relationship where you were convinced that everything was moving forward, then, without warning, you were dumped? Most men find themselves in this situation because they either fail to recognize the signs of an impending breakup or just simply choose to ignore them.
Being able to read these signs and use them to your advantage will not only make you more successful with women, it will also allow you to cut your losses and not waste your time on women who aren't interested and simply don't want to further a relationship with you. Here are 5 tell-tale signs that your girlfriend wants to break up with you:
1. Your phone conversations become less frequent
If you and your girlfriend normally talk a few times a day but that’s changed to a few times a week, this could be a red flag. If you notice her phone calls are becoming sparse or she consistently takes a long time to call you back, she might be trying to put some distance between you.
2. She prefers to go out with her friends instead of you
When your girlfriend begins consistently leaving you at home to hang out in nightclubs and party with her girlfriends, then she is definitely losing interest in you and is more than likely pursuing her options.
3. She starts avoiding public displays of affection
When a woman kisses you or holds your hand in public, she’s telling the world that you’re together. However, if she once engaged in kissing, touching, groping, cuddling, crossing hands into each other's opposite back pockets, but now avoids PDA altogether, she actually doesn’t want other people to know you are together and anticipates being single soon.
4. She's not interested in sex (with you!)
If sex or other physical contact was a normal occurrence in your relationship but now its scarce, seems routine and lacks emotion, you may be headed for break-up. When a woman pulls away from sex, she is often also pulling away from you emotionally.
5. She starts referring to you as her friend
If she went from introducing you as her boyfriend to just calling you a friend that is all she sees you as and you have definitely been demoted from boyfriend status in her mind-- bottom line.
When two people are thrown together for long hours at the office and have similar interests, it's easy for romance to bloom. On the other hand, an office romance can get in the way of true professionalism and create trouble for you at the workplace. Office romances are always a dangerous bet, so if you think that your only chance at love is in the workplace, think about the following reasons to avoid mixing business with pleasure:
1. Your work efficiency will be reduced
When the object of your desire is within your view during the work day, your job performance can begin to suffer. Your mind will become so preoccupied with looking for ways to sneak off for romantic interludes that you begin neglecting or delivering low-quality work and end up compromising safety and security aspects. Once that happens, your boss along with your entire department and coworkers could lose confidence in your abilities and lose faith in your dependability.
2. It will lead to office gossip
Once your relationship is exposed in front of your coworkers, your private life won’t be private anymore. Being the subject of office gossip can destroy your chances for promotion and severely harm your professional image. Furthermore, if you gossiped about other coworkers with her or bad-mouthed anyone during your good times together, there's a chance that those comments will come back to haunt you.
3. Breakups could make for a hostile workplace
Let’s face it – most office romances don’t last, and when relationships outside of the workplace fail, the other half of the failed relationship will be in constant company, making the environment very uncomfortable and strained. If she is the instigator of the breakup or decides she wants to be " just friends", jealousy may take its toll on you when you witness her flirting with other employees, going out on lunch dates and moving on with her life without you. On the other hand, if you ended the relationship, she might try making your life hell at work--and possibly try to get you fired.
4. It could lead to a sexual harassment suit against you
When subordinates date and then break up, the possibility of a sexual harassment suit is a real concern. The smiles and occasional glances, flirting, playful jokes, letters and naughty e-mails that were thought to be fun and flirty during the relationship could become evidence against you when dealing with someone who resisted the breakup and subsequently wants to hurt you.
Marriage is one of the most important things—and one of the most life-changing endeavors—any of us will undertake in life. You have to be absolutely sure that the woman in your life is someone you’ll be happy spending time with day in and day out, and certain characteristics can make it a little clearer to you that she’s the one. Here are 10 signs that the woman in your life will make a good wife.
1. She's trustworthy and loyal
A great wife loves her man…flaws and all, and takes the time to show him how much she appreciates him every day and will not be out doing something she shouldn’t be when you are apart. This type of woman is ready to go to war with you and take on whatever obstacle life presents.
2. She's emotionally stable
Your future bride should display confidence, have a real life of her own, be able to stand on her own emotionally and should be happily going in her own positive direction with no signs of emotional baggage. Furthermore, she should be able to meet you at an intellectual level, constantly surprise you, keep you on your toes and deepen your attraction past the physical realm.
3. The two of you have similar interests
If there are things you both like to do, that's a good sign you are entering a marriage of happiness and longevity.
4. She respects you
The woman you decide to marry should be a genuine person who considers you in every situation and will be on your side no matter what. She should not be the type that will be checking out other guys, but will keep her attention focused on you, the man in her life.
5. The two of you have great communication
There is nothing more important in a relationship than communication, and if you are considering making it official by marrying her, you have to feel comfortable talking with her about any and everything. The more you communicate with your woman, the less likely the two of you will get into arguments because you both will be able to talk about your problems instead of holding them in.
6. You have great intimacy together
The way you relate to each other in the bedroom has a big influence on whether the two of you will stay together after wedding vows are exchanged, so the intimacy between the two of you should be on point.
7. The two of you can laugh together
Mutual laughter is an essential component of a strong and healthy marriage. Romance is much better if you can see humor in the little things and can have a laugh together.
8. Her finances are in order
When you get married you will accumulate debt together, but you don’t want to marry someone who is up to her neck in debt and has no income. You may feel you should be taking care of her, but it still feels good knowing you have someone who has a reliable job, good credit and is responsible when it comes to managing her money.
9. She's beautiful inside and out
The woman you decide to marry should be beautiful on the inside and the outside and will not only want to look good for you, but also for herself. This doesn't mean that she has to look like a model, but she should be so well put together that you'll be proud to have her on your arm and enjoy the sight of her in any light.
10. You are both in agreement on kids
No marriage will thrive, nor perhaps will any marriage survive, in which one spouse wants children and the other rejects any notion of children. When considering marriage, if both of you are in agreement on the notion of children, you will likely be entering into a pleasurable, long-term marriage.
Interested in the other side of the coin? Check out our article on the Top 10: Signs She'll Make a Bad Wife
If you’re thinking of asking your girlfriend to become your wife, deciding if you’re ready to make the commitment to marriage is only half the battle. You have to be absolutely sure that the woman in your life is someone you’ll be happy spending time with day in and day out. Love alone is not enough to make a marriage work, and certain characteristics are warning signs for a troubled marriage down the road. Here are some of the most obvious signs that your girlfriend is not marriage material.
1. She cuts you off from loved ones
A girlfriend who always becomes sick when it's time to spend quality time with your family and even forbids you from hanging out with your friends will only act worse after you say your vows.
2. She bails on you when times get toughLife isn’t always a bowl of cherries, but that doesn't mean that the woman in your life should just disappear when the times get tough. If your girlfriend is not supportive of you emotionally through difficult times and only stands by you when things are going good, she's not the one you should be walking down the aisle with.
3. She displays psychotic behaviors
A woman who breeds chaos, misunderstanding and insanity might not be the best person to swear your undying loyalty to. If she displays severe psychological problems now, imagine what kind of influence her crazy and irrational behaviors will have on your future. Marrying a woman like this will most likely ruin your life and your perception of women forever.
4. She's too clingy
If your girlfriend can’t go anywhere or do anything without you, calls you twenty times a day and destroys any chance of you missing her because because the two of you are never apart, she’s going to make a bad wife.
5. She has nothing going on for herself
You should want to marry a woman who has goals and brings something better to your life, not one who is up to her neck in debt, has no income, displays unpredictable behaviors and has tried numerous, short-lived career paths yet never knows what she wants in life. This type of fickle lifestyle could derail your own life plan as well.
6. She's controlling
If your girlfriend controls all of your conversations, constantly forces you into agreeing with her and acts as an overbearing, emotional bully, it’ll only get worse after you say "I do."
7. She's already cheated on you
Do you honestly believe that a woman is marriage material if she has been unfaithful to you while you were dating? Yes, a person can always change and learn from their mistakes; however, a cheating girlfriend will more than likely continue to be unfaithful after marriage.
8. Her libido doesn't match yours
Another sign that she'll make a bad wife is if her libido differs wildly from yours. The way you relate to each other in the bedroom has a big influence on whether the two of you will stay together after wedding vows are exchanged, so it’s best to work this out before you walk down the aisle.
9. She's extremely jealous
Although a little bit of jealousy is essential for a healthy relationship, extreme jealousy arises in a relationship because of high levels of insecurity. If your girlfriend is jealous of every girl who comes near you, refuses to accept that you have female friends and feels threatened when you discuss your previous relationships, putting a ring on her finger is not going to make her more secure.
10. She can't admit when she's wrong
If she always seems to have the upper hand in arguments, refuses to admit her faults or even treat you as an equal, she's not the marrying kind.
Interested in the other side of the coin? Check out our article on the Top 10: Signs She'll Make a Good Wife
Has your girlfriend suddenly started acting differently around you? Have you been trying to understand her actions but just can't seem to figure them out? Well, the reason she's been acting differently may be because she is losing interest in you.
In our article the 5 Signs She's Not Into You, we examined signs of a woman's low interest level in the early dating stages. But what about when you've been together for a while? If you see that your girlfriend exhibits any of the following warning signs, you have reason to be concerned.
1. She puts her girlfriends ahead of you
All women are entitled to a girl's night out here and there with their girlfriends, but if spending time with their girlfriends has begun to take priority over you and she consistently leaves you at home to gallivant in nightclubs, she is definitely losing interest in you.
2. She avoids public affection with you
If your girlfriend has allowed you to kiss her or hold her hand in public in the past and suddenly begins rejecting your advances or moves away from you without an obvious reason, you have reason to worry about her interest level in the relationship.
3. She's lost interest in sex (with you)
If she has suddenly become bored by your performance in bed and you're rarely hitting the sheets anymore, she may be wishing for someone else to rub her the right way.
4. She starts fights with you
If she has all of a sudden noticeably lowered her tolerance level for your little mistakes, constantly picks fights and turns every little thing into an argument or a disagreement, chances are her interest level has lowered and she is probably unhappy about the way your relationship is going.
5. She shows interest in other guys
If you notice your girlfriend openly checking out other guys and flirting with other men while you're right there beside her, it could be her way of sending you a subtle message that she's shopping around for another man.
6. She's put distance between you
A woman who is in a happy relationship always makes time for her partner. So if all of a sudden you don't see your girlfriend for a week or more and when she does answer your calls, she is busy and is always in a rush to get off the phone with you, something is definitely wrong.Take this as hint that she wants time apart to explore what it feels like to be away from you.
7. She's no longer affectionate toward you
If she just sits there and does nothing when you attempt to touch her and caress her or you're always the one who initiates the hand holding or hugs first, a breakup may be impending.
8. She begins saying “I” instead of “we”
If you feel like your girlfriend hardly talks, doesn’t contribute much to the conversations you have your and she starts to use “I” instead of “we” when talking about the future, this means that she does not see a future with you in it anymore.